It can be quite a challenge to salvage a failed relationship. You’re on pins and needles; one wrong move and the guy or gal of your dreams could be out of your life for good.

The techniques we’re going to cover her may at first seem like exactly the wrong way to go about things. While this may be the case, it is true that a lot of the things which your instincts tell you about how to behave after a breakup are all wrong. It is when you feel like getting in touch with your ex that you should make sure to keep away from them – and when you feel the most like opening your heart to them may help, this is when you need to keep cool.

Remember – while these techniques may not seem to you like the right way to go, they have been proven to work again and again.

Counterintuitive Technique #1

You have to begin by accepting the breakup. It can be tough to acknowledge that you have been dumped and you’ll more than likely have to fight with yourself to come to terms with things.

However, you have to accept the situation. Your ex will need space if they are to start missing you and think about taking you back. Right after the breakup, they are probably upset or angry with you; you need to back off and leave them alone for a while. If you badger them about getting back together, this will probably ruin your chances of a reunion.

Counterintuitive Technique #2

Secondly, you have to cut off all contact. You may think I’m completely off base here; you may even be thinking about leaving this page – just hear me out. This technique really does work! The space helps you and your ex to both step back and get a clear head – and your ex may start missing you in the meantime.

You both need some time and some perspective. This time apart will also get you ready to take the third step.

Counterintuitive Technique #3

The next step is to engineer an opportunity for you and your ex to reconnect with each other. This is more complicated than it sounds and there are a lot of intermediate steps which you have to follow.